So after my first two attempts at finding love on the Internet, my credit card cried when I looked into Plenty of Fish. I assured my plastic little buddy that this site was free, and I would not inflict further pain to the poor thing.
Again, I filled out the questionnaire and made my tagline (this is like the title of your profile to entice people to look at you). I really had no feelings positive or negative about this site.
About an hour after I published my profile, I began getting messages upon messages from men around my city. I felt more confident in myself and thought that this might be the site to bring me my soul mate.
When I first started reading the messages, most of them appalled me with their content. I have never been propositioned so many ways in such a small span of time. I quickly felt my hope dwindle down to the bottom of the pit.
I looked back over my profile to see what I did wrong to make them think I was that type of person. I couldn’t find anything to indicate the response I was getting. I was about to delete my profile and give up completely when I found a message not like the others.
This person seemed polite with his compliments, and so I checked out his profile. He wasn’t bad to look at, and his interests were a lot like my own. Feeling a spark of hope return, I messaged him back. We continued this for several weeks before I agreed to meet him.
We met and had a nice dinner. He was every bit as nice as his profile. Eventually we dated for about two months, but there was something missing to move the relationship forward. We mutually agreed that the relationship was not working, and so we parted ways amicably. I deleted my profile from Plenty of Fish, not because I gave up on finding love, but because I wanted to refocus myself on my career.
I think all three websites have their perks and are great for meeting new and interesting people. Here are some tips for helping others manage a profile on a dating website:
1) Safety is first! Never put personal information that could lead someone to find you without your permission. This includes phone numbers, personal email address, physical mailing address, the name of your work place, or even your last name. Just because someone says they are something online doesn’t mean they’re telling the truth.
2) Don’t lower your standards. Don’t allow someone to talk you into doing or saying something you don’t feel comfortable with. Stick to your beliefs and morals. The right person will respect this and not try to change your mind. Don’t be afraid to report someone for bad behavior on the website.
3) Meet in a public place. Never let the person pick you up at home. Find a public place to meet. Coffee shops, bookstores, restaurants, and the movies are great places. Avoid parks at night, gas stations, and going to his/her place.
Again, I filled out the questionnaire and made my tagline (this is like the title of your profile to entice people to look at you). I really had no feelings positive or negative about this site.
About an hour after I published my profile, I began getting messages upon messages from men around my city. I felt more confident in myself and thought that this might be the site to bring me my soul mate.
When I first started reading the messages, most of them appalled me with their content. I have never been propositioned so many ways in such a small span of time. I quickly felt my hope dwindle down to the bottom of the pit.
I looked back over my profile to see what I did wrong to make them think I was that type of person. I couldn’t find anything to indicate the response I was getting. I was about to delete my profile and give up completely when I found a message not like the others.
This person seemed polite with his compliments, and so I checked out his profile. He wasn’t bad to look at, and his interests were a lot like my own. Feeling a spark of hope return, I messaged him back. We continued this for several weeks before I agreed to meet him.
We met and had a nice dinner. He was every bit as nice as his profile. Eventually we dated for about two months, but there was something missing to move the relationship forward. We mutually agreed that the relationship was not working, and so we parted ways amicably. I deleted my profile from Plenty of Fish, not because I gave up on finding love, but because I wanted to refocus myself on my career.
I think all three websites have their perks and are great for meeting new and interesting people. Here are some tips for helping others manage a profile on a dating website:
1) Safety is first! Never put personal information that could lead someone to find you without your permission. This includes phone numbers, personal email address, physical mailing address, the name of your work place, or even your last name. Just because someone says they are something online doesn’t mean they’re telling the truth.
2) Don’t lower your standards. Don’t allow someone to talk you into doing or saying something you don’t feel comfortable with. Stick to your beliefs and morals. The right person will respect this and not try to change your mind. Don’t be afraid to report someone for bad behavior on the website.
3) Meet in a public place. Never let the person pick you up at home. Find a public place to meet. Coffee shops, bookstores, restaurants, and the movies are great places. Avoid parks at night, gas stations, and going to his/her place.