I am blessed to be single. I don't feel this way every single minute of every single day, but being with the wrong person at the wrong time is way scarier than being single.
You've heard the statistic that 40 to 50 percent of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. I personally can name at least 10 friends/family that have been divorced at least once...some more.
I'm not saying that these friends and family members have committed some heinous crime, but I do believe one of two things happened in their marriage:
I'm not saying that these friends and family members have committed some heinous crime, but I do believe one of two things happened in their marriage:
1. They settled for the wrong person. It happens all the time. You want to get married and validate your entrance into mature adulthood. You're ready to settle down, or your afraid of being alone, so you find someone...anyone willing to be with you. Maybe they're not your everything. You get along...you can grow to love them.
When I think about love, this is not the scene that crosses my mind. I want the man I marry to be my everything. I want to think about him when I get up and right before I go to sleep. I don't want to have to talk myself into liking him because I feel it's time for me to get married.
When I think about love, this is not the scene that crosses my mind. I want the man I marry to be my everything. I want to think about him when I get up and right before I go to sleep. I don't want to have to talk myself into liking him because I feel it's time for me to get married.
2. Marriage isn't easy, and because of this people take the easy way out with divorce.
In my opinion, once you take those vows and sign that paper, you're committed to the other person for the rest of your life. Just because they hog the covers or push the toothpaste from the middle doesn't mean you have irreconsilable differences. (Yes, I understand that there are some circumstances that warrant divorce. I'm talking about the run of the mill..."this is too hard." that've I've heard and witnessed.)
I don't want to make either of those mistakes with one of the most important decisions of my life.
In my opinion, once you take those vows and sign that paper, you're committed to the other person for the rest of your life. Just because they hog the covers or push the toothpaste from the middle doesn't mean you have irreconsilable differences. (Yes, I understand that there are some circumstances that warrant divorce. I'm talking about the run of the mill..."this is too hard." that've I've heard and witnessed.)
I don't want to make either of those mistakes with one of the most important decisions of my life.
So, for me, it's a blessing to still be single. I look forward to the day that I can stand in front of that preacher and join in marriage to the man God made for me, but I won't settle, and I'm allowing God to take this time of solidarity to groom me into the wife He intends for me to be.